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Should we discuss subjects related to sexuality with our children?

A daughter of Nawwab Mubarakah Begum ra said:

Our mother advised us on every aspect of life with very deep insight. She did not leave anything out. Those things that mothers feel hesitation in telling their daughters, my mother would even explain those in the most modest way.

(Sirat o Swanih Sayyedah Nawwab Mubarakah Begumra, p. 241)

When our children reach an age where they begin to be exposed to such subjects, we should discuss these matters with them. If they do not learn about and discuss it with us under our guidance, they will learn about it from their peers. Hadrat Musleh Mau‘ud ra explained:

There is no shame in religion. Children attend our speeches as well, and we cannot stop them nor do we wish to keep them uninformed of these matters. So I will explain how small matters turn our attention to greater matters, and how the meeting of man and woman guides us in connecting with God

(Khutbat-e-Mahmud, vol. 3, Khutbat-e-Nikah, p. 124)

On a Jama‘at level, camps organized by the Khuddamul-Ahmadiyya and Lajna Ima’illah auxiliaries are a good environment for these types of discussions. Students are relatively more open in camps because, after having spent a week or so living and working together, the teachers and students develop an informal friendship. If such sessions are held towards the end of the camp, then everyone is usually comfortable with each other, which makes it easy and less awkward to discuss topics such as sexuality. Thus, these matters should be discussed both in the home with children and at the Jama‘at level with permission from parents.

Updated on January 4, 2019

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